When I was in a dark place, dealing with tons of depression, a Christian counselor from my church reached out to me. I wasn’t sure if I needed it, even with all of the issues I was handling, I felt at the time that I could handle it all on my own.
I showed up to the first session, and I broke, just literally broke down in tears. I had been holding on to deeply-rooted issues of pain. He let me weep and then he said, “It’s okay.”
What followed were 1 hour sessions, once a week with clear biblical direction to guide my life. He let me talk. He listened. And then he consoled me. He also directed me to biblical advice. There was a great distention if he ever went to the psychological sciences, and we sometimes went there. But our main focus was the bible.
Christian counselors aren’t against medication. There are situations and mental issues that need clear help in that way. It is a blessing of the Lord that such avenues are even open, but with me he tried a different approach.
With a gentle heart he guided me. I’ll never forget it. In the midst of it I realized that talking to someone, hearing their wisdom, well, it opened me up. Suddenly I was thinking in ways I hadn’t thought before… I thought I’d thought of everything.
One time when explaining a particularly anxious situation… how I feared saying nothing, but knew something should be said. And I didn’t want to go too far and get angry. My counselor stopped me and said, “There are gradients of responses you can give to people.” This blew my mind. I was thinking in extremes, always in extremes. But there were other ways to handle different situations. I didn’t have to go all in one way or the other.
The most touching moment of these sessions is that an anonymous donor, a good Samaritan, had chosen to pay for each and every session. Good counselors, those who make it their livelihood, well they need to feed their families.
My counselor revealed how he would pray before every session. This made a huge difference. I always felt such a relief walking into a session and just speaking my heart out and then getting practical, biblical advice in return. The reason the sessions were so well-done is because this dear counselor made it his mission, literally, it was his job. Being paid gave him the time to put into each and every session we had.
There are many forms of help people can find out there. For Christians I recommend finding a Christian counselor. I recommend it very much. They are there to listen, and to give you practical, biblical advice. None-profit organizations are also important of course, but you shouldn’t muzzle an ox, meaning, pay the teacher, pastor our counselor what they are due.
1 Timothy 5
17 Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching. 18 For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer deserves his wages.”
I was in a pickle back then… needing counseling but having no money to pay for it. Oftentimes that is where the anonymous donor comes in. My counselor found a kind heart to pay for his services on my behalf. I’ve always wanted to return the favor.
Someday I will do just that!
Anonymous donors usually call ahead. They tell those who server to expect a call from a specific client. That they will pay for that client in full to have good counseling done. When the client calls, they should ask for a male or female counselor, whichever one they think would help them the most.
The donor pays for the first session to see if the client desires to remain. After that, he should pay for the next 3 sessions outright, and commit to pay for a season of time, usually until the end of the year. The donor does not know anything that goes on in the sessions (nor would he ever ask). His only connection is the payments.
If the client needs extra time and sessions and any cab fare to make it to the building, the client should let the counselor know. The donor will gladly have that added to his bill and pay for that as well. If the client fears their phone being monitored, they should consider keeping that at home before going to a session.
In short, being a good Samaritan means paying for everything in full. Someone once did that for me, and it changed my life. I have the power and finances to do that now. When God opens the right door, I will respond and become a good Samaritan myself.