Love Practical

The story of Troy is high in drama and excitement. Imagine a war fought over the love of a man and a woman! What passion! What wonder! What stupidity!

It is a fun tale to say over the campfire. Who knows the real story behind it all. Maybe Helen had a role to play but she was not the purpose of that war. 

The fictionalized story of Troy is designed to get the crowd hyped up so that they pay the bard to stay another day and tell them more

All the while, little girls and boys over the next many thousands of years go to bed after hearing the powerful tale. They dream of fighting wars for their beloved or being fought over. It was all so fated to be! 

It’s drivel. It’s evil. It isn’t love, just the sin of pride.

Speaking of Pride

I love the story of Pride and Prejudice. It’s considered by many to be the best novel by Jane Austin (I guess they haven’t read her underrated Persuasion). This story is about passions hidden. Elizabeth hates Mr. Darcy. She loathes him. She hides her attraction to him. And Darcy is such a lout, a privileged one at that. It’s no wonder she eats up the slanderous tales of him. 

Pride and Prejudice is about honor, an honor lost by foolish pride. He asks her to marry him, and not in a kind and loving way at all. It only proves the slanderous tales of him to be more true than ever.

But this lost honor is won back! The one who slandered Darcy becomes the fool, himself a wretched man. And the honor of Darcy rescues the honor of the Bennett family. Elizabeth finds this out… not by his own words. It is through another that tells her. Oh, what honor indeed! He saves the honor of Elizabeth’s family out of love for Elizabeth… and he keeps it a secret. Fate intervenes upon his behalf (it would have been a very disappointing story otherwise) and Elizabeth suddenly learns how truly good and honorable Darcy is!

But… fate isn’t finished… not even yet!

Darcy finely comes to her, not on his own, mind you, but when he hears from one of his elder family members. This elder person tried to stop Elizabeth’s love. Elizabeth confesses she would say yes if he asked.

The stars have aligned at last! Darcy runs to her. They confess their love. They get married.

And those who read take it all to heart! “If only I could find my Darcy!” Well. As much as I love the writing, I have an issue with fate. It’s all very impractical you see. It isn’t true love at all. 

It is a great fictional book, with some parts very biblical. Honor is incredibly important when it comes to true love. But, fate… not so much. It shouldn’t even be conceived as a single part of any moment of the practice in finding true love.

It’s a very ungodly. Check your horoscope and see if the stars line up before you make a choice!

It’s demonic. A demonic notion tucked nice and neat between the pages of very good writing.

The formula found in Pride in Prejudice continues in a lesser sense today through the romcom. 

Boy meets girl. 

They hate each other. They’re oblivious to the attraction they have. This attraction disrupts their lives. That is what they truly hate. It’s fun to know this as an audience member. “Can’t you see how into you she is?” Viewers chide the dunce fool of a man.

The two fated lovers spend so much time in the movie avoiding each other, but that darn old fate, I guess they had the right zodiac sign because it just keeps bumping them into the same room or place or situation.

Sometimes there is slander that gets in the way of this love. But it can be any number of things.

Towards the end they learn (sometimes secretly) that the other is actually an honorable person worthy of love!

After many humorous hijinks, the fates align, as perfectly as the harmonious spheres of heaven. One of them is in some way prodded to chase the other. The audience cheers ‘em on, “Go get that love! You deserve it!” The love birds ride off into the sunset.

It’s the prodding that bothers me most, as if astrology must put its stamp of approval on their love before the two can ever say “I do”.

Helen of Troy is a cheater. She broke the sanctity of marriage for her beloved Paris. 

Elisabeth and Darcy didn’t come together because of their love. They were, in fact, leaving each other, very much alone! Fate’s magnanimous stamp of approval chose them to come together, why? To teach us about true love? Nope. It just made for a great dramatic ending to an awesomely-written book.

A Very Practical Thing

True love spoken of in the bible is a very practical thing. The Shulamite asks out her beloved Solomon to see if they can talk and spend time together in a safe environment (Song of Solomon 1:7-8). When the foxes that spoil the vine come between the two lovers (Song of Solomon 2:14-15) she doesn’t sit around and wait for fate to prod her on! She doesn’t check the stars or her zodiac sign. She gets up, flees her hiding place. Stops her silent treatment of him. She goes out and chases after him (Song of Solomon 3:1-5)! 

How unfashionably progressive these traditional stories of the bible are.

What Does the Bible Say?

In the next few posts we will be looking at the hard truths of the bible when it comes to seeking true love.

The books of Ruth and Esther come to mind. Alright, we’ll also go over Rachel and Rebekah from Genesis. 

You will see the truth then, how perfectly their stories ring! Everything just falls into place with no problems at all…


There’s a bunch of fallen people to cover here. But that’s the good news! Because all of us are greatly fallen ourselves. 

I hope you stick around.

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