So, you think that you might have found a narcissist. What next?
I think I’ve met a few in my life, either that or just very prideful and haughty people. And the Lord hates haughty eyes. This usually leads to various types of discrimination, from cliques in school and church to discrimination against race, age, or sex.
But The Lord also hates a great many other things beyond just haughty eyes. Here are a few more:
16 There are six things that the Lord hates,
seven that are an abomination to him:
17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue,
and hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked plans,
feet that make haste to run to evil,
19 a false witness who breathes out lies,
and one who sows discord among brothers.
Once you’ve experienced dealing with a narcissist, your mind tends to go on a witch hunt. Suddenly anyone that seems overly confident has a pride problem and is therefore a narcissist.
The point is, Matthew 7 began with a warning against judgment. I believe Jesus was talking to everyone. We all have logs in our eyes. We all tend to point out the specks of little sins others do against us, ignoring our enormous sins against God.
God is the judge, not me or you. There are steps to take if you really are dealing with a narcissist, steps to protect your heart and mind from their influence. Forgiveness is where it all begins, then a protecting of the heart. You don’t have to trust someone who has consistently been untrustworthy.
How do you confront them in their sin? Unless that sin is punishable by the laws of man, and you just so happen to be both the judge and the jury, well, there isn’t much you can do. We are powerless people, walking this earth, trying as Christians to act and belong and to love.
In the end it’s up to God. He is the ultimate judge.
Why worry about others? Worry instead about yourself. How will you confront your sins against God?
God will deal with those haughty eyes in His timing not ours. If you try and deal with it yourself, well… God also hates “one who sows discord among brothers.”
So, the narcissist sowed discord against you, breaking some bonds between you and others, now you have the right to sow a little discord back? She or he sinned against you, now you can sin back?
I’ve dealt with false witnesses brought against me. Innocent people were even doing it, falling in line with their cliques and treating it like the righteousness of God.
Maybe I should call the Avengers and seek out some justice of my own. Or, I could pray for them, forgive them, and wait on the Lord. I pray they repent. I pray very much for this. Beyond that, it’s in God’s hands.
13 “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. 14 For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. 16 You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. 18 A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’
24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”28 And when Jesus finished these sayings, the crowds were astonished at his teaching, 29 for he was teaching them as one who had authority, and not as their scribes.