The first romance was very perfect, very elegant, very simple, and very practical. It made since.
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.
Adam was incomplete without his help-mate. Even with a deep relationship with God, something was missing. This is how God designed it. Romance, is a blessing from the Lord.
20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.
It might be strange to start Man’s search for a help-mate among the animals, but there is a purpose behind it.
I believe that God was showing Adam how different he was from the rest of creation. This points out a startling fact, very obvious for us today, but to Adam can you imagine? He sees all of the bests and birds. He gives them names. The concept of a woman isn’t even conceivable. But he does understand that all of the beasts are very different from him.
This is because what God revealed in 1:27
So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
But Adam has yet to meet this female also made in God’s image. Let’s continue the story in chapter 2:
21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
And so the woman was made out of rest, not out of striving. The woman was also made by God, not the work of Adam’s hands. When Adam had searched high and low for a help-mate, and finding none, the Lord put him to sleep. Adam complied in complete and utter trust in God.
Adam was not striving or restless of course, because this was before the corruption of sin. Anxieties and depressions abound in this day and age. Those who are single look around for a help-mate, and finding none, scream in agony at the loneliness of it all. It is a deep wound of mistrust, a deep sin that cannot be quenched except by the Lord of Hosts.
We are sick, demented and fallen creatures. We cannot simply trust and rest. We must move things about. We need to make romance happen based upon our prideful knowledge of good and evil.
Postmodernism is the crowning achievement of original sin. Everyone holds their own personal truths, their own knowledge of right and wrong. It’s no wonder when we are told to rest in the Lord, we instead rebel and create crippling anxieties. How imaginative we are in thinking out all of these fantastical horrors. “I will die alone.” “I’ll become a lonely cat person!”. In thoughts like these, the very imagination God blessed us with is used to be sinful anxious.
Only Jesus can heal the deep wounds of the fallen. Let’s continue on now, in this perfect image of the first romance. It is also the only perfect romance between humans.
23 Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
Notice the words “at last”. He waited for her to come, had no concept of who she would be. Completely trusted in the Lord of Hosts to deliver her. When he saw her, everything fit. It made since. She was like him, made in God’s image, and yet different from him in alluring and wondrous ways.
The first love that blossomed was a very practical love. It made since. Why are things so complicated today? Why is it so hard to maintain healthy relationships that flourishes and thrives?
Conflicts begin when everyone turns away from the Lord and finds their own path to things. Everyone has an idea of what is right and wrong now. We all fight and argue about it. This is at the crux of the first sin. The knowledge of good and evil infests us with our own godhood, a demonic form of pride. We tell God how to be, just as Satan does. We lack humility and understanding. We need a savior to guide us!
We need Jesus. Only out of His guidance can we humble ourselves and seek His ways over ours. It is not easy though, but it is possible. In Him is the wisdom and love we need. Through Him we can learn to stop coveting and wanting. By Him we can finally engage in a restful continence so that, of Him we might awaken to abundant life.
Sadly, I fear, most Christians will need to sleep in death before revealing the rest and blessings that God has for us.
I implore you, cast your cares on Him for He cares for you. Trust in His way. Rest under His watch. I say this as a man who struggles with rest himself. I am also, very much, preaching to me. Turn away from anxiety and cast your cares on Him!
Chapter 2 ends with a mandate, a very practical one I might add. For, romantic love in the bible is extremely obvious and practical. Our sins are the cause of much strife. But here it is, romantic love perfectly and simply laid out.
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
If you are single and searching for your beloved, turn to Jesus and give up your sins. In His timing and not yours… romantic love will happen.